This term, “what you resist, persists” always seems to be used in negative ways. But something I’ve noticed is when something is meant to be, no matter how much you try to stop it from happening, it will find a way to materialize. I’ve seen this over and over again in my life… the same lessons, same dynamics in relationships would repeat themselves until I let the lesson in. In my business, well let’s just be honest… I wasn’t meant to be an aromatherapist, or a product maker like I tried in my first business, Pampered Goddess. While I gave it my all, it simply wouldn’t get off the ground, no matter the strategy, or how much money I threw at it. And while I hustled with it, people (some who knew my background as a designer, some who saw my PG branding and found out I did my own) would ask if they could hire me for branding and design. At first, I was resentful. DIDN’T THEY KNOW I was here for BIG THINGS, and to help people… not to make stuff pretty?
I see you there. Hiding behind that brand you’re wearing, even though it’s awkward, uncomfortable, and let’s be honest, a bit outdated. And you’re CLINGING to it, like your childhood blanky, dragging it along behind you like Linus, but also kinda hoping nobody sees it. Because while once upon a time, that brand was so very you… it was aligned with your values, your price point, and it was so pretty… you’re not that same woman anymore. And it’s time to put the blanky down.
Women: there is an epidemic, a plague, a LIE we’ve been buying into, and it’s robbing us of our happiness.
We’re told if we’re “good”, if we do “the right things”, if we “follow the rules” that we’ll be happy/success/have it all. Ugh. That’s a lot of air quotes in a small amount of space. And that’s how we can tell that it’s all bullshit.
We’re told that a partner, a home (decked out in Martha Stewarty goodness), 2.5 children and a white picket fence is the recipe for happiness. But what happens to all of the women who don’t want those things? Or the ones that do, but for some reason it’s just not working out for them? Are they doomed to miserable lives?? Of course not.
It’s time to call out a lie we’ve all been told. Sometimes… your best, won’t be enough. Sometimes… you will fail.
Ugh, that word fail… it’s like the 4-letter word that makes most entrepreneurs cringe… more so than an eff-bomb or two. It’s the thing we avoid most. It’s the thing we most fear. Especially because, let’s be honest – how many of us forget who we are when we start our businesses? We invest so much of ourselves – our hearts, our energy, our time, that we forget that we are not our business, we are just the people running it. So when we fail at business, sometimes we take that so personally that it feels like WE are failures.
Thanks to Facebook’s “On This Day” feature, I was able to see that it’s been a year since I dyed my chocolatey locks bright pink. The bubble gum colouring has become such a part of me that I was surprised it had only been that long. I took some time today to reflect on how having pink hair changed my biz for the better, and thought I’d share the lessons with you.
Ugh... if you're anything like me (a bit type-A, a bit of a martyr complex) you likely HATE asking for help. In fact, when you saw my headline you either cringed, or you kept scrolling cause you were like "Nope, Seryna, you're great and all but I don't wanna talk...