How it Started
It was time to step up…
I had good reason for the mask. After a childhood in poverty – surrounded by addiction, violence, and shame – I had finally gotten out. At 17, I moved to the west coast with $500, thinking that was enough to start a life. (Spoiler alert: It was not.) But I got lucky and eventually landed a very plush corporate job (a far cry from my radio roots) with a big fat paycheque, fun vacations, and my very own pair of painful golden handcuffs.
The work was soul-crushing and I had to stifle every ounce of my “too much” personality. I cried myself to sleep at night more nights than I didn’t. And my coworkers trampled over my totally non-existent boundaries. All of this left me depressed, hopeless, and exhausted.
But I had money and security, and at the time, that was enough. I believed that purpose was something you did outside of the required 9-5 business hours.
See the real picture of all the bright shoes I kept under my desk so I could have a small ounce of “me” at work.
It was exhausting trying to hide who I was all the time and putting other people’s comfort above my truth. Eventually, the other shoe dropped. I was laid off during a recession and was suddenly left with nothing. Having the rug unceremoniously ripped out from under me forced me to realize some not-so-nice truths I’d been stuffing deeper and deeper inside.
I expressed my full JOY without worrying about making others uncomfortable.
And I discovered the most beautiful truth of all: just because you grow up not knowing how to express how you feel doesn’t mean you can’t learn.
The work is messy. It’s sometimes very painful. It’s HARD. But it is so completely, deeply, deliciously WORTH IT.
You might dream of designing a life that’s no longer held back by the boundaries and circumstances other people have put on you.
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